I Love You But…
People fall in love all the time but not deeply. When relationships, marriage, don’t work,
it is often because communication has broken down. I’ll add to that, communicating the expectations of what is expected of the other. In this case, the relationship was doomed from the beginning.
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved;
loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.
In love there are two things– bodies and words.
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.
There is always madness in love.” unknown author
“You’re not the person I married” Thank God is sometimes the perfect response.
“Where did the person I marry go?”
We are conditioned to believe love from outside of us will fill us up and make us a more complete person.
If that person that completes us leaves, we go back to searching outside of ourselves.When Larry & faced the biggest challenges, I reminded myself of why I fell in love with him in the first place.
For the first time in my life I felt seen. He loved me deeply very early on, and it scared me.
I thought how can this guy be real, I didn’t love myself as much as he loved me.
There must be something wrong with him. And I did try to find out what what that was.
I tested his patience, I tested his loyalty, I could be mean to him and he wouldn’t waiver.
That made me push harder before I softened.
We keep looking for new ways to grow as humans and together.
It allows for accountability and for maintaining our personal identity.
their marriage challenges in such a casual manner.
He looked at me as though he might get my support by feeling sorry for him.
Truth is I have no sympathy for people when they waste years of their life complaining
that they’re problem is somebody else’s shortcomings.
I wasted too many years of my younger life in relationships that shouldn’t have gotten started.
It’s never the other person, it’s both of them.
Remember what made you fall in love with each other I suggested. I don’t recall what his comment was,
but it lit that fire in me. I added that I have never asked or demanded that Larry change, but that I
did expect him to always do conscious self care and to be pro active in his personal development,
body-mind and spirit.
I expect no less of him as I do of myself.
The gifts you bring to the world are for you to recognize and honor first.
It is these gifts that are uniquely you and what make your partner crazy about you.
This should be on your “non negotiable” list.
Your true love is searching for you right now. There’s a good chance that person may already be
They will see you when you are filled up and whole in yourself.
If you’d like to manifest your true love, I have a process that has worked for my clients.
Create a document that you will post somewhere private and that you will see often.
– someone who will love and accept me exactly how I am
I will meet my true love within the next three months.
Get ready to speak it out loud. If this feels weird-that’s perfect!